I get a surprising amount of emails from women - mainly American and Canadian - about dating Scottish men: e.g. North American dude; what does it mean when a Scottish guy asks them out for a drink with all his friends and so on and so forth.
Most of the time I respond because they're just looking for advice/ perspective and as everyone knows, I have publicly lamented about dating in this country so I am more than happy to pass on what I have learned, if anything.
However, I still think there is some hang over from the "olden times" when it was generally encouraged for men to be the "strong and stoic" type.
Clearly I don't approve of such encouragement because I think it's important to remember that men are a lot more complicated and dare I say it, delicate than we let them be.
Firstly, I won't question why it is a Scottish man in particular that you want to date because hey, I get it: you saw Gerard Butler in a film once and dug his accent and assume that all Scottish men are that rugged and handsome.
[: I saw Gerard Butler walking down Byres Road a couple weekends ago with this current-model girlfriend, and although my heart was a flutter at the idea of Gerard Butler, in reality it was a bit of a let down as he looked pretty hung-over].
For example, it's not really polite to directly ask someone what they do for a living.
Sure, that is the second thing we ask each other in North America, right after "What's your name? So instead, you need to find these sort of details out in a roundabout way.
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The same can be said about asking someone if they're single/ married.
Look, we'll probably never even come close to what our Scottish cousins can partake in, booze wise, but you might as well start trying: if you can't beat 'em, join 'em, right? In Canada, we usually go to other people's houses to get shit-faced but over here, people go to a pub in order to pay twice as much to shout over loud music.