20 year old dating 16 year old ok
Would I be thrilled, naw...would I be upset, not really. If she improves you as a person, and you do the same for her..I'm not just talking between the two of you but those strange outward manifestations where parents say things like "she's really good for him..has a new sense of purpose, he's more aware of the consequences of his actions", etc., then I'd say it's a good thing. Mine, OTOH, had 2 issues...one, they felt like she was too incredible looking (damn close to a 10) and two, socially her family had an incredible case of red-neck-itis (mom didn't tell me this part until a few years later).
When I was 21, I was with a girl who was 16, had the body of a 22 y.o. The moral of this is, don't expect your parents to tell you the whole truth as to why they're not approving.
Some opinions by Wiki Answers contributors: well i dont think it is wrong but if you two really love eachother, you can wait until you are at least 18.
4 years starts to not be that big of a difference when you get older so my advice is to wait until you are at least 18. No, there is no problem with it as long as there is no sex involved, when the 16 year old turns 18 they can have sex.
I honestly am not so much looking for permission as I am curious about the thoughts of others. And if you had a daughter you might have a friggin clue, I dated a girl who was only a few months into being 17... I had made an exception in her case, because I had my own little rules for dating anyone more than a couple years younger than me. Her mother loved me, although it helped that her mom knew me. I'm well read, I keep up with the news, I'm active politically, I would rather watch a movie made 50 years before I was born than the latest torture-porn at the theatres.
I've pretty much made up my mind to ask her out unless I hear someone with a good reason not to, but I'm just wondering about some opinions.blueberry, all I can say is... The last thing I need are my testicles mounted on a trailor hitch. I'm looking for an actual relationship, not just to get laid.
Now she is still a minor but i dont see any thing wrong with fating her have her home early to show respect for her, if you treat her with resecpt the famliy will see that.
And to the weird guy who has a daughter and would like to kill the OP: Maybe I would feel differently if I had a daughter that age but I sure feel sorry for your daughter. I'd be respectful but I don't know if I'd not see her because of it. Naturally i want to protect her and if that make me weird then so be it. Oh, and just in response (kind of) to blueberryman's posts, about fathers and such, the girls dad had no problem with things either. I'm an almost 20 year old guy, I have a job, I have a car, I go to school, I don't touch drugs, I drink maybe three times a year and when I do, its in a friends basement where I know I'm staying for the night.
There is a huge difference between 20 and 17 from a maturity point.
A three year difference down the road is nothing,but at your ages it is big.2.
No, there is no problem with it as long as there is no sex involved, when the 16 year old turns 18 they can have sex.
But personally, I've met a 23 year old that is married to a 65 year old, so no there is no problem with that, because I can't have sex with my girlfriend; she's 18 and I'm not 18 yet so we can't have sex.
Hopefully you will all have fun meeting singles and try out this online dating thing... There's this girl I work with, have for about 2 months, who I think is pretty awesome.